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[sal_amanda]

Listen to this craziness.  If you recall our previous installment in adoption drama, we spoke with a birth mom who then wound up picking a friend of mine instead, all for very good reasons that we completely understand.  Anyway.  This friend of mine dropped me a Facebook message yesterday that her son's birth mom is 7 weeks pregnant and would like to place this child with her, as well.  She has mentioned to me in the past before she had her home study updated that if that were ever to occur, she would do what she could to make it happen.  Now with the idea that she'll have a baby in just a few weeks, she's faced with this prospect.  Two babies in such a short period of time is a major financial commitment, with the cost of two adoptions, time off from work, and daycare.  But at the same time, she's said that the thought of her son's half-sibling being placed with someone else makes her feel ill.  

I really feel for her and don't envy her one bit having to deal with this situation.  But selfishly, I can't help but think that if this birth mom had found out and come to the agency just a few weeks sooner, we'd all be happily expecting right now.  

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[busybusymama.livejournal.com]

are you kidding?? Any chance the first one (the one to happen in a few weeks) is something they would change their minds about, or is it is a definite thing?

[sal_amanda]

I'll be honest. That was my very first immediate thought, but then I just as quickly dismissed it. I know this woman and I know she'd never back out of something like that. And the way she's talking about the situation confirms for me that I'm right about that. She's really looking at it in terms of trying to figure out a third child, in such close age to the second one. It's a tough situation, though. She's a single woman and she also supports her mom, so it's fiscally unlikely for her, but she wants to make it work badly.