My last will and testament

[sal_amanda]

I, Mandy, being of sound body and mind...  And I have no idea what the legalese is after that.

So anyway.  In these home studies that I conduct for prospective adoptive parents, I always address the topic of guardianship, as in who would they want to raise their child if they were not able to.  We discuss characteristics that they would want these people to have and so on and so forth.  Every time I'd come home from one of these meetings and have this discussion with John about what we would decide.

We are in the enviable position that we have a lot of people we trust that we could choose from.  Thus, we have spent a long time making this decision and haven't taken it lightly.  In the end, we have decided that we would choose Nora's godmother, Kim, to be the guardian of Nora as well as any other kids we may eventually have, as she is someone we trust implicitly and know that she would raise Nora most in the same way we would.  She's like this weird combination of the best parts of me and John all in one person.  As an added bonus, I also know she could handle being tied to our respective families in that way - no small feat, let me tell you.

In any case, the reason I write this here is because we haven't yet gotten off our butts to make it all legal and official, and so until we get around to it, the best thing we can do legally is make it known to as many people as we can that this is our intention, just in case we both kick off sometime soon.  

Hmm, and I suppose I should technically also declare that all our worldly goods would go to Nora and any future sibling(s), in trust, I would assume, to be handled by Kim.  

I have mentioned it to my mom and besides never wanting to consider the need for such a thing, she merely thinks it stinks because Kim lives too far away.  Um, everyone lives far away from here.  I'm hoping that eventually we will also live far away from here, but whatever.  

Anyhoo.  While I'm discussing will issues, I suppose I could publicly declare my desire to be an organ donor and that I'm cool with being unplugged if I'm in a vegetative state.  I don't want to do the standard Catholic thing of having three days of wakes before you finally get to the actual funeral.  Too depressing.  Just give me a memorial service.  And a party.  And do I really need to be embalmed and put on display?  I always find that gross.  Also, I'd like to be cremated, and whoever wants a piece of me can have a bit and distribute me somewhere they think I'd like.  I leave that decision to them.  Much more personal that way as in maybe they'd pick a place that would have significance for us.  Or maybe somewhere I haven't been that I'd have liked to go to.  I'm open.  Know what I mean?

So those are my intentions.  Now we just gotta find the time to get to a lawyer.  

Comments

[busybusymama.livejournal.com]

Can you believe that we have had our wills drawn up but have yet to sign them? ... for over a year? I am so put together. ;)

[sal_amanda]

You're doing better than me. I should be doing more than this, really, because certain things we would not like to see happen at all and there would probably be some major disputes. So this is just a start.

[soltantosogni.livejournal.com]

I can poke Boyfriends Aunt. Have her reccomend someone. Or have her do it XD.

[sal_amanda]

I'll take recommendations. When I posted this to the dorks some time ago, someone actually suggested William Mattar. You know, the "hurt in a car, call William Mattar" guy. That struck me as odd. Ask her what this kind of thing costs because that's what I really don't know.

[datashade.livejournal.com]

Uh, only problem is, aside from being at your house once to meet you, your husband, and your very happy dog, I have no idea how to contact you etc. Most of my contact info, email IM etc is in my profile, drop me a line with the preferred way of getting in touch with you.

[sal_amanda]

You can e-mail me at salamanda76@gmail.com, which is probably the easiest way to get me. Thanks.